Living a Successful Life
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
It really is time to change our thinking and create a successful life for ourselves. How often do we carry the baggage from the life stories of those around us? Don't we have enough of our own!
As women, I think we do this all the time. We take on all the issues and challenges of those that are close to us, especially our children, but also our friends, co-workers and certainly our spouses. We need to get over it!
It's like this. You know those mornings where your son/daughter has a problem and doesn't want to go to school for some reason, and we send them anyways and churn all day long, wondering how they're doing and if you made the right decision, gave them the right advice. You can't wait to see them went they get home and are eager to find out how it went, how they dealt with it and if they are okay. When you ask they stare at you blankly, not sure what you are talking about. When prompted, they reply something like - Oh yea , that , yea, no problem. In fact they left it all at the door and in our bellies and went swimmingly along in their day, as we deliberated, worried and sighed. Our children are certainly doing a really good job of living their own lives, and they are way better at it than us.
Taking on the responsibility of other peoples problems, even if they are our children does absolutely nothing for anyone. There is a very important lesson here, that any of us, parents, entrepreneurs, professionals in any business can learn. The best thing that we can do to support others in our lives that are having challenges is to live our own lives fully and live a successful life.
When our children look at us, we want them to see in us what we aspire for in them. And the same holds true for those around us. When we take ownership of our lives, we set a glorious example for those around us.
As women, I think we do this all the time. We take on all the issues and challenges of those that are close to us, especially our children, but also our friends, co-workers and certainly our spouses. We need to get over it!
It's like this. You know those mornings where your son/daughter has a problem and doesn't want to go to school for some reason, and we send them anyways and churn all day long, wondering how they're doing and if you made the right decision, gave them the right advice. You can't wait to see them went they get home and are eager to find out how it went, how they dealt with it and if they are okay. When you ask they stare at you blankly, not sure what you are talking about. When prompted, they reply something like - Oh yea , that , yea, no problem. In fact they left it all at the door and in our bellies and went swimmingly along in their day, as we deliberated, worried and sighed. Our children are certainly doing a really good job of living their own lives, and they are way better at it than us.
Taking on the responsibility of other peoples problems, even if they are our children does absolutely nothing for anyone. There is a very important lesson here, that any of us, parents, entrepreneurs, professionals in any business can learn. The best thing that we can do to support others in our lives that are having challenges is to live our own lives fully and live a successful life.
When our children look at us, we want them to see in us what we aspire for in them. And the same holds true for those around us. When we take ownership of our lives, we set a glorious example for those around us.
Author: Jacqui Markowitz
